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What You Should Know About Flowers
Contributed by
Dion of Flowers in Motion of NYC
Bridals: Things To Know

Time of The Year

Meanings of Flowers

The Bridal Bouquet


Body Flowers

Wedding Ceremony

Church Florals

Flowers at the Reception

Cake Decorations

Basic Pricing

It is advisable to employ a florist to supply the flower arrangements. Most of the work with the flowers is done the day before and the morning of the wedding when the couple and their families are at their busiest. Therefore unless the floral displays are very simple it is wise to have them professionally prepared.

When deciding on a florist seek personal recommendations from friends and recently married acquaintances. If you are unable to decide, it is best to visit several and look at their displays. Most florists will allow you visit them at a time when they have prepared flowers for other weddings so that you can see the quality of their work.

Decisions regarding the flowers should only be made once the wedding outfits have been chosen. The style and colour scheme of flowers should be in keeping with the wedding and in particular reflect the personality of the bride.

The florist should be given notice of the wedding approximately four months in advance so that he is free on the day. The florist will want to discuss precise details around six weeks before the wedding.

When They Are In season

Many flowers can now be obtained out of season because they are grown in greenhouses and are imported from other parts of the world. Seasonal flowers, however, are more likely to fresher and less expensive.

Seasonal Flowers



Apple blossom

Azalea Daisy Mimosa

Broom Forsythia Orchid

Bluebell Freesia Polyanthus

Camellia Gladioli Primrose

Carnation Heather Rhododendron

Cherry Blossom Honeysuckle Stephanotis

Clematis Iris Tulip

Crocus Jasmine Waxflower

Aster Gladioli Marigold

Azalea Hollyhock Orchid
Carnation Heather Peony
Cornflower Iris Rose

Chrysanthemum Jasmine Rhododendron
Delphinium Larkspur Stock

Daisy Lilac Sweatpea
Freesia Lily-of-the-valley Sweet William
Fuschia Lupin Tiger Lily



Chrysanthemum Gypsophila Micklemas Daisy

Daisy Hydrangea Morning Glory

Dahlia Iris Orchid

Freesia Lily Rose

Gladioli Love-lies-bleeding


Carnation Gentian Rose

Chrysanthemum Holly Berries Stephanotis

Freesia Iris Snowdrop

Forsythia Lily Winter Jasmine

Gypsophila Orchid

Their Names and Their Meanings

Over the centuries certain flowers have acquired meanings. Some brides take account of the meanings of flowers when deciding which blooms to include in their bouquet. A list of flowers with their meanings is given below:

Flower Message

Almond blossom hope

Apple blossom good fortune

Asphodel my regrets follow you to the grave

Barberry bad temper

Burdock touch me not

Camellia gratitude

Carnation fascination

Chrysanthemum – red I love you

Chrysanthemum – white truth

Cyclamen modesty

Daffodil regard

Daisy innocence

Fern fascination

Forget-me-not remembrance

Gardenia joy

Heather good luck

Hellebore scandal

Heliotrope devotion

Honeysuckle generosity

Hyacinth loveliness

Hydrangea boastfulness

Ivy fidelity

Iris flame/burning love

Japonica loveliness

Jasmine amiability

King’s Cup I wish I were rich

Larkspur fickleness

Lemon blossom fidelity in love

Lilac youthful innocence

Lily majesty

Lily-of-the-valley return of happiness

Magnolia perseverance

Maidenhair discretion

Marigold grief

Meadow Saffron my best days are past

Mimosa sensitivity

Myrtle love

Narcissus egotism

Orange blossom purity

Orchid beauty

Peach blossom captive

Pink boldness

Rose love, happiness

Snowdrop hope

Sweatpea pleasure

Tulip – red I love you

Tulip – white I am worthy of you

Tulip love

Veronica fidelity

Violet faithfulness

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The Bridal Bouquet


In the past the bride’s bouquet was compose of white flowers to symbolise purity. Although some brides still choose to have a white bouquet, many choose colours which complement the bride and bridesmaids’ dresses as well as the general colour scheme of the wedding.

When choosing flowers it is worth taking a sample of fabric from the bride’s dress to the florist. This can be a great help when matching colours. This applies even if the bride has a white wedding dress and wants a white bouquet because whites can vary in their shade and intensity.


There are several classic shapes of bouquet and good florists have a selection of photographs to demonstrate them. The florist should also be able to advise on which flowers match the chosen shape bearing in mind the colour scheme and seasonal availability.

The most popular designs include the “trailing waterfall” shape and the round “posy” of tightly arranged flowers.

The “trailing waterfall” shape draws the eye from top to bottom and can therefore have a slimming effect. However, it can overshadow a petite bride if its too big. The cascading shape of bouquet best complements a full length skirt. It can result in an unbalanced look with shorter skirt lengths.

The posy style of bouquet draws attention to the middle of the body. It may not be suitable for brides not wishing to draw attention to their hips and also for very tall brides.

The bouquet is held just below waist level. If this is likely to obscure a feature of the dress which the bride particularly wishes to be seen then she can choose a bouquet which lies across the arm.

As a general rule large bouquets suit formal, long dresses while smaller bouquets or even a single bloom are more in proportion with a knee-length dress.

The bouquet ribbons are tied at the ends into knots to symbolise unity.

Preserving the Bouquet

There are several ways of preserving the bouquet as a souvenir.

The bouquet can be dried and kept whole or dismantled and a collage made from the dried, pressed flowers.

A replica of the bouquet can be made from silk flowers.

Suitable shoots can used as cuttings to grow new plants.

Alternatives to Floral Bouquets

Instead of a bouquet the bride may choose to carry:


white prayer book



dorothy bag


Some brides choose to wear floral headdresses. A well chosen headdress can create a spectacular effect. The florist should be able to give advice on matching the headdress to the dress and the bouquet.

Flowers by their nature are delicate and care must be taken not to disturb them through the day as this can spoil their effect. Additionally, advice should be taken from the florist on choosing flowers that will not wilt, particularly if it likely to be a hot day. One possible solution to this problem is to choose a headdress of flowers made of silk or some other fabric. These will look good all day and can be kept as a memento of the day.

The bridesmaid or Maid of Honor may also wear a floral headdresses or incorporate flowers into their hair style.

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Bridesmaids’ Tussy Mussies and The Posy

The bridesmaids usually carry posies which are smaller than the bride’s bouquet. The colour and style should match their dresses and the overall scheme of the wedding. If the bridesmaids are very young they may damage flowers by over-handling or grow tired of holding the posy. An alternative may be allow them a small basket which is easier to handle. Also a smaller and tighter version can be supplied for the Flower Girl

Body Flowers

Corsages may be worn by the couple’s mothers. They are small floral arrangements worn as buttonholes.


Buttonholes are usually worn by the groom, the couple’s fathers, the best man and the ushers. If the couple wish, they may provide buttonholes for all their guests.

The groom usually wears a single white carnation to match the brides dress. The best man and the fathers wear a double red carnation and the ushers a single red or white carnation.

Other colours of carnation and other flowers, for example roses, may be worn as buttonhole.

Roses are usually supplied by florists with a sprig of greenery and the stems wrapped so they are easy to fasten and remain fresh for the whole proceedings.

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Flowers for the Wedding Ceremony


The decoration of the church should be discussed with minister at the first meeting to find out what the church’s policy is. Some churches will not allow flowers to brought in. The church supplies the floral arrangements. Others will allow the couple to supply the flowers.

Often churches have regular helpers who arrange the flower displays and who will help display the wedding flowers for a contribution to church funds. Because they are familiar with the Church they known what looks the most effective. This is a great help for the inexperienced flower arranger, particularly at this hectic time. Alternatively the florist will arrange the displays.

When the church is hosting several weddings on the same day there will not be time to change the floral arrangements. The church will be decorated by the church flower arrangers and cost divided amongst the couples. The Church decorators are usually available to discuss the type of arrangements with couples.

If couple have very specific ideas about the way they want to decorate the church it may be advisable to choose a less popular day, when theirs will be the only wedding taking place in the church.

If the couple or their family is decorating the church, this is usually done the day before the wedding.

The Church


Pew ends

Isle ends


Window Ledges

Around Front



Alter steps

Register Office

Because weddings take place in Register Offices every day they are suitably decorated and most will have at least one flower arrangement. Registrars may also allow further displays to be brought in but this should be discussed at an early stage of planning with the Registrar’s office. The main concern is that setting up displays does not disturb other ceremonies taking place on the same day.

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The Reception

Some reception venues such as hotels and restaurants often include floral arrangement as part of their service. Others may make a charge. Most venues will allow the couple to supply their own floral decorations. The management should be consulted to arrange a convenient time to set up the displays which will not inconvenience the catering arrangements.

The decorations usually consist of a large display just inside the entrance which is seen by guests as they enter the reception room, and arrangements on each of the tables for guests. The top table occupied by the newlyweds usually has a more ornate arrangement.

Large halls and marquees usually provide plain backgrounds and therefore flower arrangements should be spectacular and large to catch the eye. Decorating with potted plants is a good idea as they can subsequently be used in the newlyweds new home. Huppa, or Chuppa start at $200.00 or Just and Arch of Flowers can start at $150.00

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Cake Decorations

Many couples choose to decorate the cake with flowers instead of bride and groom figures. The flowers may be display in a silver vase or a small spray laid on top of the cake. A simple yet effective alternative is to place a single flower on the cake. Any flower which sits flat such as a stemless, slightly opened rose or a large daisy will be suitable.

The caterer who supplies the cake will be able to supply the flowers and vase. Alternatively the florist supplying the bouquet and other flowers could also supply the cake flowers to ensure a harmonious colour match.



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Article 2 – The Blending Family Ceremony Includes Kids.
By Nily Glaser
©All rights reserved to Nily Glaser 2006-2014

This article is dedicated to couples that will have a “blended” family once they are married. That is, children will have a new parent and possibly new siblings.
A family wedding is very important when either or both bride and groom have children. Children must always feel that they are IMPORTANT especially now, when their parent is marrying a new life partner. There are two main reasons. One of the reasons is that children need reassurance. They need to know that they are important too, and that they are welcome and wanted by both, parents and new siblings.
The other is that most parents WANT their children to be an integral part of the wedding and celebration as they are a part of the newly created, blended family.
Many re-marrying couples, as well as couples with children, who are planning to renew their vows, ask if we at A-wedding Day could suggest how they can integrate the children into the wedding ceremony and / or reception in such a way that it will become a Family Wedding. That is, a wedding that creates a new family.
The following are ideas, implementation of which depends on the ages – abilities of the children and the degree of involvement the marrying couple wishes to dedicate to them.


First come the obvious. Children or grandchildren should be given the duties of:Sand-castle

  • Flower Child(ren), not the hippies of the sixties but wedding flowers or rose petals bearers.
  • Ring Bearer(s). That is right! You may have more than one flower child and more than one ring bearer.
    I bet you wonder why I did not say Flower Girl. This is because a boy can be a flower child just as a girl can be a ring bearer. 
  • Have the children ask the guests to sign the Guest Book.
  • Have the children lead the guests to their seats.

Guest books and matching pens Flower baskets - flower girl baskets for the ceremonyRing bearer pillows

Another way to bestow honor to teen age or older children) is to

  • have the son(s) walk the bride and / or the daughter(s) walk the groom down the aisle. The son can be either the bride’s or the groom’s and so can the daughter be.
  • Include your children in the wedding party as attendants.


During the ceremony, after the bride and groom exchange vows and rings, they may integrate vows dedicated especially to the children, followed by the presentation of gifts of jewelry such as an engraved ring.

For blending family wedding

For family vows ideas, click here.
Be very careful about your vows so that you’ll not encounter the experience that will be forever etched in the hearts of Ben and Barbara. Both had previously been married. Ben had 2 kids ages 8 and 12 and Barbara a daughter age 5. Barbara presented her vows to the children in a way that required a response. This is what Barbara said: ” I hope that you’ll accept my promise to be the best mom I can be to you. I promise to love you and support you and be fully involved in your life.” Barbara wanted to make her vows less solemn and more appealing to the kids, so she ended with “Do we have a deal?” What a mistake!!! The 8 years old did not answer but the 12 years old did. In front of all the guests he said: “You may love us and support us but you’ll never be our mom. We already have a mom.” Lesson learned! Vows should always be one sided. They are to be given with no strings attached and no expectations. Your vows are your promise. Word it wisely. Do not request the kids to make any promises and do not pot them in a position where they have to protect, or not hurt one of their parents.

Following are two other examples of vows that are worth noting.
There are many styles of vows. Most are written by the bride and groom or by a hired vows writer. For illustration purpose, I’ll have the bride and groom recite these traditional remarriage vows. The last part is an adaptation of vows to the children, making the vows ideal for blended families:
Or are they.

Vow 1 – exchanged with bride and groom’s vows.

“I,____, take you, ____, to be my lawful wife – husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part.”
I, _______, take you now, in the presence of God and these witnesses, to be my wife – husband. I vow that I shall love you, honor you, respect you, cherish you and uphold this promise in good times and in bad as long as we both shall live.”

I________, promise to be a good and faithful husband – wife to you, and as importantly a patient, loving father – mother to (children’s names), caring for them, supporting them, and providing for them as my own. I promise to be their strength and their emotional support, loving them with all my heart forever.”

Is this an ideal vow to present the children?

Did you notice that the vow was actually given to the bride rather than be directed to the children? Did you also notice the promise to be a loving mother – father?
If the children have a living mother – father they will resent this promise. If the word parent was used instead it would not cause bitterness.

Vow 2 – Given to children by the grooms at the time of gifts presentation

The following was a vow from a groom to his bride’s children.
He vowed as he presented each of the children with a Family Unity Ring.
“Today, as I married your mother, you became my family.
I am delighted because I love you.
I promise you that I’ll always shower you with love, take care of you and do my very best for you.”

Is this an ideal vow to present the children?

It may not be Ideal but close to it.
Did you notice that it was directed to the children?
It was a vow substantiated by facts. Though the groom states that the kids became his family he does not presume to present himself as their father or even parent.
He seems to promise them what was already in his heart.
Without fancy words, he basically promise to do his best for them.

Vow 3 – Just imagine the following scenario. It actually happened.
The officiant at a blending family wedding thought the kids should respond in kind. So after the bride and groom made their promises to the kids, he initiated the following saying:

“And now, (children’s names) that your are a part of a new loving blending family- please say (“I do”) or(“We do”) after each question:

· Do you promise to love and respect your parent’s new husband -wife?
· Do you promise to support their marriage and your new family?
· Do you promise to accept the responsibility of being their children, and to encourage them and support them in your new life together?”

DO NOT DO THIS! Never expect the children to make promises to the bride and groom or to each other.
Why not?
The vows must come from parents to children as a ONE SIDED COMMITMENT and must be carefully worded. Do not expect the children to present the bride and groom with vows, unless of course the vows were the kids’ idea and they wrote them on their own maybe even as a surprise to the bride and groom.

Personalized-candles-by-NilyTHE FAMILY UNITY CANDLE

Children who are old and responsible enough, should participate in the Unity Candle ceremony. Here there are a few options.
If only one or two children are involved, they should be given their own tapers and join the bride and groom in lighting the pillar candle.
However, if more than two children are involved, they should receive their own tapers but rather than light the pillar candle, light their tapers from it.
The candle lighting ceremony is a perfect opportunity for children who are old enough and wish to congratulate the bride and groom and acknowledge the new family union. This must be initiated by the kids without any coaxing or expectations.

A friend who recently got married told us about the Unity Candle ceremony at her wedding. She had ordered a personalized pillar candle and seven personalized tapers from Candles By Nily and gave each child a personalized taper.

The ceremony was actually a Family Unity Ceremony. All five children (his two and her three), all above 10 years old, wrote a congratulation and thank you note to the bride and groom.
Once the Unity Candle was lit, they took turns lighting their tapers from the pillar and surprised their parents as in unison, recited the following:
“As I light my candle from the Unity Candle, I feel the warmth, love and excitement of my new, larger family.
Thank you Susan (BRIDE’S NAME or MOM or MOTHER) and Bill (GROOM’S NAME or DAD or FATHER) for having given me an extended family to love and be loved by. Congratulations! I love you!
It was such a touching experience that there wasn’t a dry eye in the room!
Right after the Family Unity Candle ceremony, Susan and Bill exchanged their first gifts as a husband and wife and gave each of the children a personalized Family Unity Ring, Available at A-wedding Day, and a BIG welcome hug.
Susan and Bill engraved the 3 in 1 ring as follows:
Band 1 To child’s name
Band 2 With Love
Band 3 Wedding Date.
Notice that they did not put Mom and Dad on the ring. Many parents do put Mom and (groom’s name) or Dad and (bride’s name).
Rachel and Tony added a touch of their own to the ceremony.
After the unity candle ceremony they had the Best man hand them a silk rope akin to the one used as a curtain tie. The bride and groom tied the first knot and each child added a knot. The knotted rope was later placed in a shadow box with the candles, sixpence, glass slipper, hankie, and tiaras.

This series is divided into 4 articles. Article 1 engagement and preparations Article 2 family ceremony Article 3 family reception Article 4 is a table with ideas applicable to certain age groups

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Who pays the Bridal Party expenses?

Is there a rule of thumb  for the hotel rooms
and other expenses for your bridal party?

Is there a rule of thumb  for the hotel rooms
and other expenses for your bridal party?

No you don’t need to pay your wedding party’s expenses nor for their hotel rooms if you cannot afford it.
It would be a nice gesture if you did, but not mandatory.
If you’ve can afford it and are willing to do that, it would be much appreciated I’m sure!

If you cannot afford to pay everyone’s hotel accommodations you can still do all of your out of town guests
a great favor and save them a lot of money. HOW?
Hotels REALLY drop  their prices for wedding blocks of rooms, even if the reception is not held at the hotel,
So, negotiate, you may be pleasantly surprised at the results. If the hotel management will not work with you,
go and negotiate with another hotel.
Here are a few experiences brides shared with us.

Tina wrote:

Most of my bridal party is coming in from out of town and I am not paying for either their travel expenses or their rooms, with 2 exceptions:

Though she would never have asked us to do so, we will pay all expenses including accommodations for my maid of honor who works very hard for little money, and could neither be my maid of honor nor attend the wedding if she had to pay her own way, without getting into debt.. We are paying for her travel expenses and for her hotel room but she is paying for her dress, shoes, etc.

We will also pick all the travel and 3 days hotel stay for one of the groom’s men. Both of his daughters are our flower girls, so we are paying for the family to travel for the wedding. They will be spending so much money on us as they purchase their wedding attire and to be a part of the wedding that we knew money was going to be tight. The rest of the bridal party is paying their own travel and hotel rooms.

 In addition to the appreciation gifts they will receive from us, we will pay for the  bridesmaids  hair and make-up to be professionally done on the day of our wedding. This gives us bonus of having us all be together getting ready the morning of the wedding!

Betty Wrote:

I booked a block of rooms at the Marriott off season. I negotiated with the hotel manager an extreme discount for my guests. The starting rate for a king size room at the hotel is $179.00 per night with breakfast included. Our wedding guests will pay only $79.00. The rate for a the same deal but for a double room with breakfast went from $189.00+  to a mere $89.00. There are some great deals to be found and your guests will appreciate your efforts and their savings.


It was not until we – actually my fiancé, – negotiated with the hotel manager that we got results which truthfully were more than we expected. If you want results, insist on talking with the manager or the highest ranking person at the hotel administration and no one below him. You also must be willing to negotiate.


Joanne Wrote:

Earlier etiquette dictated that since they come from afar to be with you, brides and grooms were expected to “Host” their guests, and pay for their local expenses. Things have changed, and today you definitely are not expected to pick up their tabs. But if there is someone who really wants to attend your wedding, but can’t afford it and you can, then paying for them, is a nice and highly appreciated gesture.

I only had an MOH and 1 BM and I paid for their hotel rooms mostly because I knew it would be a real stretch for them financially, to the point where they probably would have had to say no to the trip. I used to work in the bridal industry and I have always heard that it is proper wedding etiquette to pay for the wedding party’s hotel accommodations. It is not your responsibility to pay for their travel expenses or wedding attire but the hotel rooms, in my opinion, yes it is your responsibility. When I got married everyone in our wedding party was in college so we knew they were all strapped for cash. So we paid for their attire, shoes, jewelry, and hotel accommodations for 2 nights. I did not pay for the hair and make-up for the bridesmaids but I gave them the option of getting it done. I did not care if they paid to have that done professionally.

Lisa attended a wedding and her advice is:

If you choose not to pay for anything, be considerate and keep the wedding party’s cost minimal. This weekend my husband is in a wedding and the groom picked out the most expensive tux in the tuxedo shop, a hotel room at an expensive luxury hotel and wants us to go out to eat at an expensive restaurant for lunch on Friday and breakfast on Saturday for which everyone will pay for himself and his family. The bride and groom are not paying for any of this. In addition to the tux, hotel and restaurants we had to pay all our travel expenses, as well as a babysitter for our two children. It is going to cost us a fortune. I am sure that my husband would have declined being in the wedding party maybe even going to the wedding if he knew it was going to be so expensive. We decided to stay at a different hotel than the others and probably skip out on the expensive meals. We just cannot afford this extravaganza. This put us in a funny (not so funny) situation where we are worried that the newlyweds will take it the wrong way and think we are being rude.

Brenda did some research on the topic and this is what she wrote based on her findings in Bridal Guide:

“You are not responsible for your attendants’ travel expenses. However, you are responsible for their accommodations and should make arrangements for your out-of-state attendants to stay with you, another member of the wedding party or any friends and relatives who graciously offer a room in their homes. It is probably a good idea to discuss travel costs with your traveling members of the bridal party beforehand so that there will be no misunderstandings about finances later on. If the travel costs will be too much of a burden for any of them and you want their participation, make your contribution to their expenses a gift for participating in your wedding.



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You just got engaged and spread the news. You are ready to start planning your wedding. There are many things you must consider. The most important is the date and time of day, followed by the style of your wedding. The actual date will not affect your wedding planning as much as the season you choose as the latter will have an undeniable impact on the tone of the occasion.

Spring Weddings

Spring is a great time for wedding celebrations. From ancient times and still today, spring represented rebirth, renewal and new beginnings and getting married is the new beginning of your life together. Weddings that take place in the spring – March, April, or May enjoy an abundant of gorgeous flowers and usually favorable weather. Good weather offers you the choice to celebrate your wedding indoors or outdoors and you can have it at any time of the day.

Summer Weddings

June, is still the most popular wedding month. Yet, July and August follow closely. Summer is favored by many because the school year is over. College-students, Teachers, and others who are in the “school year” related professions can get married and enjoy their honeymoons and since many employers offer summer vacation time, guests are free to travel. Gorgeous flowers are plentiful and the weather is usually favorable though in some location the days can be quite hot. Good weather offers you the choice to celebrate your wedding indoors or outdoors but if you choose the outdoors, schedule a late afternoon, or evening event. After all, summer evenings are long as the sun sets pretty late.

Autumn Weddings

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Fall has its charm. The weather is mild and crisp, and in many parts of the country, the autumn scenery is spectacular. The trees with their color changing leaves are so magnificent that many fall wedding couples make autumn their wedding theme using the colors rich foliage as the key part of their celebration. The majority use wreaths, harvest motifs, acorns and other nature provided fall items. Decorating in autumn hues and colors provides sets a warm and fiery atmosphere.

Winter Weddings

December and its Holiday Season is the only very popular wedding month in the winter with the exception of February’s Valentine’s Day. Since fewer people get married in the winter, it is easier to locate available wedding venues. Additionally, the clergy and vendors you need – are not too busy and are eager to serve you. They will gladly spend extra time with you and hopefully will give you a break in the price for hiring them in the slow months just before and just after the Christmas holidays.  In the last few years, however, the number of winter wedding especially November and December has been steadily growing. It seems that many brides and grooms look for hotels, halls and restaurants that are decorated for the holidays most often in good taste. If you choose such a venue, it is most likely that you will be able to save on decorations and have a festive atmosphere at your wedding.

Winter especially Snow Flake has also become a very popular winter wedding theme.

What is Next?

Once you chose the season, the next two items you need to concentrate on are coordinating the ceremony location with the reception venue, especially if the ceremony and the reception will be located in different places. Both must be on the same date. The clergy should be consulted first. Once you have set the ceremony date and place, choose a reception site that is not too far and will be easy for your guests to get to following the ceremony.

Find vendors that will be free to accommodate you on the day and time you provide them with.

Special – Popular – Days:

  • January 1st – New Year
  • February 14th – Valentine’s Day
  • March 17th – St. Patrick’s Day
  • May Last Weekend – Memorial Day Weekend
  • July 4th – Independence Day
  • September First Weekend – Labor Day Weekend 



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Planning the Perfect Wedding Day

How to Schedule the Flow of A Wedding

By Nily Glaser of A-wedding Day

Planning a Perfect Wedding Day
By Nily Glaser You are engaged. You have chosen your wedding date and time and secured the ceremony and reception locations. You secured your wedding attendants and deligated responsibilities. You made arrangements with the officiant and the vendors. They know what they need to supply and -or do and when. I hope that this article will help you organize your perfect wedding day. It is not as cumbersome as it may seem.

About Your Wedding Budget
Your budget is a most important aspect of planning your wedding. It needs to be addressed even before you prepare the itinerary because it will determine what and who will take part in it. A typical wedding budget plan includes the following considerations:
From your total budget that is 100 percent,  for:

  • The Stationery about 3 percent. However, it will be considerably less if you print your own stationery on your computer printer or copier. Examples of DIY design and print your own invitations: FORMAL or CARD TYPE.
  • The Attire, hair, make up, and jewelry for the bride and the attire and jewelry for the groom about 10 percent.
  • The Wedding Rings: about 4 percent.
  • The ceremony: location, officiant, accessories, music, license, unity candles, about 3 percent. Examples of Ceremony Accessories you will need:                                     Guest Book, Pen Set, Ring Bearer Pillow  and Flower Girl Basket
    Unity Candle ,   and in a family wedding –  Gifts for the Children.
  • The Reception: location, catering food and drink, rentals, accessories, centerpieces, favors about 45 percent. Examples of Reception Accessories you will need: Bridal garter, Bridal Purse – Money Bag, Cake Server Set, Cake Top, Flutes set,Guest book, Pen Set and Favors.
  • The Flowers for the bouquets, coursages, boutonniers, ceremony site and reception site about 8 percent.
  • The Music and Entertainment: about 8 percent.
  • The Photography and Videography about 12 percent.
  • Transportation: for bride and groom, guest shuttle, vallet parking etc. about 2 percent.
  • Gifts for your family, wedding attendants, and out of town guests, about 2 percent.
  • Incidentals about 3 percent.
    This is just a guideline as your needs thus expenses may be different than the typical.Wedding Itinerary and Details
    It is important that all your vendors, your family members and attendants receive a detailed itinerary, and are familiar with the schedule of every step of your entire wedding day as well as:
    who is responsible for what,
    Who needs how much preparation time before the wedding,
    The location they need to set up.
    For example: The caterer and bar tender, the florist and decorator, the photographer and the videographer, the band or DJ etc… must set up prior to the wedding. Knowing the details, will allow them to coordinate their activities with each other and know exactly when they are needed.
    For example, the wedding ceremony itinerary should included every detail from handing the guests a wedding program, having them sign the guest book, showing them to their seats, to after the bride and groom, family and attendants leave. It should also include who does what and all items needed such as flowers, unity candles, vows, gifts, etc.
    Create mini itineraries for each vendor, for each family member and attendant. created a wedding speeches schedule, a schedule for the Band or djs, and for the caterer. Provide each vendor with a complete Vendor Contact List so they can get together and coordinate their responsibilities with your wedding itinerary requirements.If you want to have a worry free wedding, it is essential that you incorporate alternatives to tackle anticipated or un-anticipated snags that may occur. Chart the entire day from beginning to end.
    Plan and organize every single detail, and coordinate all the details and alternatives to flow smoothly.
    Following are some ideas for a wedding day itinerary. That is right! plan the entire day as one unit. divide the itinerary into smaller more specific lists.
    Be flexible about your wedding day timing schedule. If any aspect takes longer or is shorter than planned, keep the flow going by getting right into the next phase.
    To learn about the Tools you need, read the article.

    As you chart the entire day include all activilies prior to the wedding. Do not forget activities such as hair, beauty treatment, dress up, etc.
    Know exactly when and where every activity takes place and for how long. Plan on rest periods in between activities. This will allow time for activities that take longer than expected without upsetting you. Should everything go exactly as scheduled, do take time to relax. Your next wedding planning tasks are to obtain all the neccesary items and accessories to make sure that the entire day including the wedding itself go smoothly.
    To acheive this you must pay special attention to plan in great details so as to have everything in place and not to allow for significant breaks in the flow of your wedding day.

    The Invitation
    A common problem faced by brides and grooms, is guests who arrive late and disrupt the ceremony. There is a very logical remedy namely, to have your invitations state a start time is a half an hour before the actual ceremony. So, if your ceremony is scheduled for 4:30 pm indicate 4:00pm on the wedding invitations. That will insure that even guests who arrive late, and there are always a few who do, will be on time for the ceremony. Guests do not mind waiting for the bride and groom and your walk down the aisle will be more dramatic if guests are seated and awaiting your grand entrance.

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How to choose and work with wedding vendors, professionals and service providers

Wedding Planning

How to choose and work with wedding vendors, professionals and service providers

Contributed by Nily Glaser

 Author of the Popular

The Personalized Wedding Planner OrganizerThe Personalized Wedding Planner and Organizer

Many brides and grooms write to A-wedding Day requesting information about planning their weddings.

The typical inquiry is as follows. ” We just got engaged. What do we do now? Where do we begin?”
Well, weddings are very personal and each has its own unique character.
It is very difficult to list every possible scenario but the basics are the style of wedding, the size, the budget involved , the location and of course the bride and groom choices and their personalities.

  • WEDDING STYLE can range form a classic, elegant and glitzy
    black tie affair to a picnic in a park.
  • WEDDING SIZE depends on the number of guests.
  • WEDDING BUDGET can range from a few hundred to tens of thousands of dollars.
  • WEDDING LOCATION local or a destination wedding.
  • BRIDE and GROOM choose the setting, the colors, the music, the wedding theme etc…     that reflect their personalities and interests.

Some couples hire a wedding planner, some rely on the experience of friends and family, but most opt to plan their wedding by themselves.
The wedding day is only part of the term wedding as a whole. Wedding as it will be referred to in this article includes the preparations for, and the activities following the big day including the honeymoon.

So, you got engaged and are looking forward with anticipation, to your dream wedding but do not know where to start and what to do. You are not alone! This article is dedicated to the many engaged couples facing this dilemma and those who want to be focused.
It is very important that both of you, bride and groom, start planning your wedding as soon after the engagement as possible. This allows you to:

  • take your time, brain storm and leisurely discuss your needs and desires,
  • prevent and correct any errors,
  • deal with delays,
  • handle any possible mishaps,
  • have fun and enjoy planning your wedding rather than stress over it.

You need to choose your priorities first and write down everything that is:

  • very important – urgent,
  • less important – allows for flexibility
  • least important – most adaptable for changes and compromises.

For example:
Very important – urgent

  • Date
  • Budget
  • Location of ceremony – location of reception
  • Size of guest list
  • Offificiant – Clergy
  • A specific wedding vendor or service provider
  • Time of year time of day
    Having prioritized, put together your wedding information and a list of questions and requests, to present to the vendor or service provider.

Of secondary important – less urgent but needs time to organize.
Can be flexible.

  • Attire
  • Menu and Beverages
  • Florist
  • Cake
  • Photographer – videographer
  • Invitations
  • Musicians
  • Wedding day help – before, during and after the wedding.

least important – Most acceptable for flexibility, changes and compromises.

  • Wedding day schedule
  • Readings at ceremony
  • Music selection
  • Final flower selection
  • Gifts for family and wedding attendants
  • A wedding gift from the bride to the groom
  • A wedding gift from the groom to the bride
  • Wedding favors
  • Centerpieces
  • Reception seating arrangements

How to find the appropriate wedding vendors professionals and service providers.

Before setting any appointments it is a good idea to: ask your friend, acquaintances and family for recommendations,

  • Attend bridal shows
  • Visit bridal shops and ask for referrals,
  • Check the internet
  • Check the yellow pages

Go over the written notes and organize them by priority and ease of use.
Armed with a list of vendors and service providers, it is time for you to pick up the phone and set appointments. Schedule your appointments by PRIORITY. So, if a specific person or company’s participation at the wedding is required, you should contact them FIRST to find out when they have an opening. If the date is a priority you need to focus on securing an officiant, and a location for the ceremony and the reception, and so on. Do not limit your search to wedding specific service providers such as wedding consultants, caterers, florists, DJs and-or musicians, photographers, ceremony and reception sites and videographers, who also provide services to other types of parties, business events, conventions etc… may be open to negotiations. You may able to secure their services at a reduced rates or receive a free gift. Actually, while on the phone to set an interview appointment, request a price quote for a party. Give the service providers the basic information including number of guests, date, and hours requested and ask for a quote. When you arrive at the interview, with the price quote in hand let them know that the party is a wedding.
Do not, however, commit until you have accumulated at least a few bids and found the person(s) you interviewed accommodating and easy to work with.
Oh, yes! one more thing you need to do before booking any of your vendors. Check them out at the Better Business Bureau to make sure no have been filed against them. Once you made your choice, do not look for other alternatives or you’ll drive yourselves crazy. Instead go on to the next detail that requires your attention.

Be prepared! Go to each interview ready with your questions and information neatly written. Bring a pen and paper and take notes at meetings with the different wedding professionals, service providers and wedding vendors.
These notes serve as a fun keep sake too.

Visit A-wedding Day discount shopping mall and save. Here you’ll find a wide selection of wedding gifts, bridal accessories, supplies, and favors at affordable prices. Use the money you save on other aspects of your wedding.

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You may not need every service, or you may need them all but being a very well informed customer is a must. In fact, it will give you confidence and make your wedding planning process pleasant and fun.

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Love Poems 1

Love Is
Love is
being happy for the other person
when they are happy
being sad for the other person when they are sad
being together in good times
and being together in bad times
Love is the source of strength

Love is
being honest with yourself at all times
being honest with the other person at all times
telling, listening, respecting the truth
and never pretending
Love is the source of reality

Love is
an understanding that is so complete that
you feel as if you are a part of the other person
accepting the other person just the way they are
and not trying to change them to be something else
Love is the source of unity

Love is
the freedom to pursue your own desires
while sharing your experiences with the other person
the growth of one individual alongside of
and together with the growth of another individual
Love is the source of success

Love is
the excitement of planning things together
the excitement of doing things together
Love is the source of the future

Love is
the fury of the storm
the calm of the rainbow
Love is the source of passion

Love is
giving and taking in a daily situation
being patient with each other’s needs and desires
Love is the source of sharing

Love is
knowing that the other person
will always be with you regardless of what happens
missing the other person when they are away

but remaining near in heart at all times
Love is the source of security
Love is the
source of life

-Susan Polis Schutz-


How Do I Love Thee

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of every day’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candlelight.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.

-Elizabeth Barret Browning-


If thou must love me

If thou must love me, let it be for nought
Except for love’s sake only.
Thy comfort long, and lose thy love thereby!
But love me for love’s sake, that evermore
Thou mayst love on, through love’s eternity.

-Elizabeth Barret Browning-


My Luve

O my luve is like a red, red rose,
Thats newly sprung in June:
O my luve is like the melodie,
s sweetly played in tune.
As fair art thou, my bonie lass,
So deep in luve am I;
And I will luve thee still, my dear,
Till athe seas gang dry.
Till a
the seas gang dry, my dear,
And the rocks melt withe sun;
And I will luve thee still my dear,
While the sands o
life shall run.
And fare thee weel, my only luve!
And fare thee weel a while!
And I will come again, my luve,
Tho` it were ten thousand mile.

-Robert Burns-


Words on Feeling Safe

Oh the comfort of feeling safe
with a person;
having neither to weigh thoughts,
nor measure words,
but to pour them all out
just as chaff and grain together,
knowing that a faithful hand
will take and sift them,
keeping what is worth keeping
and with a breath of kindness,
blow the rest away.
-George Elliot-


Love Is A Great Thing

Love is a great thing, yea, a great and thorough good
By itself it makes that is heavy light;
and it bears evenly all that is uneven.

It carries a burden which is no burden;
it will not be kept back by anything low and mean;
it desires to be free from all wordly affections,
and not to be entangled by any outward prosperity,
or by any adversity subdued.

Love feels no burden,
thinks nothing of trouble,
attempts what is above its strength,
pleads no excuse of impossibility.
It is therefore able to undertake all things,
and it completes many things,
and warrants them to take effect,
where he who does not love would faint and lie down.

Though weary, it is not tired;
though pressed it is not straitened;
though alarmed, it is not confounded;
but as a living flame it forces itself upwards and securely passes through all.

Love is active and sincere, courageous, patient, faithful, prudent and manly.

-Thomas À Kempis-


Love Is More…

Love is more thicker than forget
More thinner than recall
More seldom than a wave is wet
More frequent than to fail

It is most mad and moonly
And less it shall unbe
Than all the sea which only
Is deeper than the sea

Love is less always than to win
Less never than alive
Less bigger than the least begin
Less littler than forgive

It is more sane and sunly
And more it cannot die
Than all the sky which only
Is higher than the sky

-E. E. Cummings-


The Art of a Good Marriage

The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is never taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

It is doing things for each other,
not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation
And demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo
Or the wife to have wings of an angel.

It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
Understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
Dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner,
it is being the right partner.
-Wilferd Arlan Peterson-

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We Got Engaged.

What Do We Do Now?

Contributed by Nily Glaser

Wedding Planner Organizer

Personalized Wedding Planner & Organizer

Author of the Personalized Wedding Planner and Organizer For the Table of Contents Click here

Copyrights© 2011 – 2014 Nily Glaser, All Rights Reserved

 It is your wedding. Your own very special day. Make it a no stress wedding, a one-of a-kind event. Congratulations! You just set the date for the most important day in your life. Your wedding day. Many bridal couples become overwhelmed by all the ‘must do’s and instead of enjoying the journey get stressed out. Don’t be one of them. Here are a few suggestions that will make the preparation fun. Keep within your financial limits. Budget your wedding carefully. You do not want to start your joined life in debt. If you are organized have a plan and are creative, whatever your budget, a wedding to remember is do-able. When you look at the tasks at hand in preparing for your wedding, the list may be overwhelming. . Don’t try to do everything all at once. Break your list it into small manageable portions that you can successfully accomplish. Always remember that it is YOUR wedding. Be sure that it reflects YOU. No one can or should dictate to you what to do and how to do it. Though you may seek advice, the final decision is yours. On the other hand, don’t be shy. Accept assistance when offered and solicit involvement from those you believe will be an asset. Your wedding is a deeply serious and intimate moment declaring your love and commitment to each other. Add your personal touches. If you have children you may consider making them an important part of your wedding. Read the article ‘Make your children a part of the wedding’ Make your wedding truly a one-of-a-kind event. Pick a few aspects of your wedding and make them personalized. The personal touch is what makes a wedding most meaningful and memorable to the bridal couple, their attendants, family and all invited guests. Also, fill your day with cherished moments and keepsakes. Whether you choose a favorite theme, a special setting or an intimate gathering of friends and loved ones, enjoy the road leading to it because, sad to say, the wedding itself will be over before you know it. Yet the memories and keepsakes will stay with you forever. Treasure them! Good Luck!

Announcing Your Engagement

In today’s Society we encounter various forms of weddings, each with different requirements.     ·  There are weddings of couples where both partners marry for the first time.     ·  There are weddings of couples where one or both have been married before, but have no children.     ·  There are weddings of couples where one or both have been married before, and have children.     ·  There are weddings of couples with children, who decided to have a renewal of vows wedding and There are December weddings of couples over 50 years old that often have children and grandchildren. We’ll begin with the wedding announcement of brides and grooms, having a Family Wedding that includes children. Brides and grooms, who do not have children, should skip number 1.

Who do you tell first, second and…

It is no secret that you are bursting in the seam wanting to share your happy news with those closest to you. Sharing the news in person is not always practical. When it is not, a phone call is appropriate. 1. Your Children; If either or both of you have children, they should be the first to hear of your engagement. You do not want them to hear it from anyone else. 2. Your Parents; Usually the parents of the bride are told first, following immediately by the parents of the groom. 3. Siblings, Grandparents, and Other Close Relatives; 4. Your Closest Friends; 5. Everyone else;

How to announce your engagement to everyone else?

You have a few options. Most brides and grooms utilize at least some if not all of them. ·  Mail printed announcements. They do not have to be expensive. Purchase blank invitation kits and print them on your computer printer. If you plan to have a wedding ceremony and reception, send announcements only to people you intend to invite. ·  Invite your friends and family to an engagement party. ·  Publish an announcement in your local newspaper. ·  Create a Wedding Website. ·  Once you secure your wedding date and location, send out Save-The-Date cards.

Your First Wedding Planning Things-To-Do List

Every engaged couple is unique. Some have plenty of time to plan their wedding while others do not. Therefore rather than plan by a time table, we plan by priority. 1. Announce your engagement. 2. Have your fiancé spend time with your family. This will give them the opportunity to get to know him or her better. He or she will become a part of the family and you want him or her to be welcomed. 3. Be prepared to answer many questions 4. Prepare for an engagement party. It is customary for parents to have an engagement party. 5. Decide how much time you need to plan your wedding. 6. Use the PERSONALIZED “Our Wedding – Wedding Planning Organizer” It will guide you, so you can easily plan your wedding from start to finish, no matter how casual or lavish. This personalized wedding planning workbook comes in a 3 ring binder, so you can print any page and have as many copies as you need. This is a very comprehensive personalized planner that includes articles, tips, budgeting worksheets, planning worksheets, hiring worksheets and many checklists. It even includes Contract Checklist forms to assure that every detail is covered. 7. Read the articles you are interested in and use the worksheets and checklists. 8. Find out if your families will participate by contributing funds or by covering the costs of specific needs. 9. Set your budget. (See Tips Page.) 10. Set your priorities. 1. Must have 2. Would like to have 3. Will have only if it is within our budget. 11. Open a wedding specific checking account and get an awards credit card dedicated exclusively to wedding expenses. 12. Research wedding magazines and attend Bridal Shows. 13. Always carry a notebook and pen so you can add ideas, details, things to check, and notes. 14. Your wedding planning 3 rings binder includes closeable folders and sheet protectors for brochures, contracts, receipts, magazine articles, pictures, menu ideas, fabric swatches, stationery ideas and samples, photos, etc. Use them. 15. Make the first draft of your Guest List. You may need to tailor it to fit within your budget. 16. Choose possible dates. 17. Choose time of day for ceremony. 18. Coordinate a date from your chosen dates with, and book an Officiant. 19. Choose time of day for reception. 20. Decide what style of reception you want. This may depend on your budget and number of guests. 21. Start looking for a reception venue. 22. Check your budget and the number of guests against the basic venue reception costs. 23. Trim your original Guest List if necessary. 24. Now that you know who will be invited, send out Save the Date cards. 25. Choose your wedding colors. 26. Choose and invite the people you want as your Wedding Attendants. 27. Consider friends and family members who may be willing to contribute their talents to your wedding. Do you know anyone who: Does flower arrangements? Decorates special cakes? Can design centerpieces? Plays an instrument and/or Sing? Etc. 28. Jot down all the do-able tasks and all deadlines and set your personal time table. 29. Contact those who you believe are reliable, to whom you could delegate tasks. 30. Mark each task, deadline, interview, appointment, meeting and follow-up on your calendar. 31. Relax and enjoy each other as you plan your wedding together.

Wedding Planning Check List

Preliminaries ·  Announce your engagement. ·  Select a Wedding Date. ·  Decide on Wedding style. ·  Decide on Wedding Location. ·  Decide on Wedding Formality. ·  Decide on Wedding Time of Day. ·  Decide on Theme for Wedding. ·  Decide on Wedding Colors. ·  Determine your Budget. ·  Choose your Wedding Attendants. ·  Determine Who Will Pay for What ·  Give each contributor a copy your Budget Page and have them enter their task, monetary or accessory contribution, etc. ·  Give each Attendant a copy of each Monthly Calendar Page so they can mark important activities and festivities. ·  Decide on the preliminary number of guests. You may need to change it later. ·  Decided if We Want to Invite Children. ·  Compile the bride’s guest list the groom’s guest list, the guest list of those they both intend to invite, add the guests your parents request you invite. ·  Judging by your budget, if you need to, start trimming as follows: must invite, may invite and will probably not invite. ·  Tentatively finalized Guest List. ·  Select your Ceremony Site. ·  Secured an Officiant. ·  Purchased Wedding Bands ·  Select a Reception Site. ·  Sent an Announcement to Your Newspaper. ·  Sent Out Invitations.


·  For a wedding at home, arranged for all necessary home improvements. . ·  If you plan to have a garden wedding arranged for Necessary Landscape Improvements. ·  Order the Bridal Head Pieces. ·  Order the Bride’s Shoes. ·  Arrange Rehearsal. ·  Arrange Rehearsal Dinner. . ·  Book wedding vendors and service providers as follows: Caterer, Bar Service, Bakery, Florist, Music and Entertainment, photographers, Videographers, Rental and Supplies, Valet Service,Accommodations for bride and groom Including wedding night Bridal Suite, Accommodations for guests, Transportation for Bride and Groom, Transportation for guests, Provided each of the Wedding Attendants with a copy of the Responsibilities Pages, Met with Bridal Party to discuss their Attire, Shopped for the Bridesmaids Dresses and Shoes, Arrangements made for Men’s Attire, Gifts from Groom to Bride, Gifts from Bride to Groom, Gifts for the Kids, Gifts for the family, Gifts for attendants, ·  obtain The following wedding accessories: Cake top, Cake serving set, Flower basket, Flutes, Garter, Guest book, Pen set, Purse – Money Bag, Ring Pillow, Unity Candles and a Candle Holder ·  Centerpieces and table decorations ·  Favors ·  Gifts For each other, kids, parents and family, wedding party, others. ·  Reception site Decorations ·  Locking Treasure Chest for Gifts and Cards.

Travel Arrangements – Make sure you have all the documentation

·  Passport(s) ·  Visa(s) ·  Birth Certificate(s) ·  License(s) ·  Arrangements for Hotel, Resort, Cruise etc. ·  Arrangements for transportation at Destination. ·  Destination Wedding Ceremony – Officiant. ·  Destination Wedding Reception – Planner ·  Destination Wedding Accommodations for guests ·  Arrangements for Guest transportation at Destination ·  Arrangements for Tours and Entertainment at Destination This is just a wedding planning article. For a complete planning organizer check: Personalized Wedding Planning Organizer provides you with tips, ideas, and forms that include a comprehensive list of interview questions and a contract checklist. ******************************************************************

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From Engagement to Wedding

Parties, Get-Togethers, Rehearsal Dinners and Other Celebrations

By Nily Glaser  Copyrights © 2007 – 2014 All Rights Reserved Nily Glaser,


The Engagement Party

Traditionally the parents of the bride hosted an engagement party for their daughter and her fiancé. Today it is quite common for both sets of parents to host separate engagement parties. Also, quite frequently brides and grooms host their own engagement announcement parties. The party can take on any style. It can be a special formal dinner, a catered buffet, an in home finger food and salad reception, a barbeque, a cocktail party and even a pot luck. Printed invitations are optional but you should consider sending them to out of town guests. Invitations are required only if the party will be a formal event.

The Bridal Shower

The Bridal Shower is an informal party for the bride where all the guests are women. It is usually scheduled a few months to a few weeks before the wedding. Traditionally it was hosted by the maid of honor. Today however, more and more bridal showers are hosted by the bridal attendants as a group. Bridal showers, as the name implies, are intended to shower the bride with gifts. They have a few of the same characteristics but actually, rather than uniformity, each is personalized. Showers have expanded to reflect the personal style of the bride. The event planner(s) choose the location, the decor, the flowers, the favors and even the menu the bride would have chosen if she were in charge. Though the bride will attend as a guest, rather than giving her a surprise party which previously was the custom, she should be consulted about the theme and about the guest list.

She should be able to choose the size of the guest list. After all, every woman who is invited to the shower must be invited to the wedding too. Since a shower has very loose traditions, it is quite appropriate to ask the bride whether children and – or men may attend. The most appreciated gifts especially in the current economy are keepsake bridal accessories for the wedding such as: guest books and pens, ring bearer pillows, flower baskets, bridal purses, garters, flutes, cake serving sets, albums stationery etc…, entertaining, kitchen and household goods.One of the most fun parts of the shower is when the gifts are opened and the reaction written. So, ask one of your attendants to jot down your reaction to each gift opened. It is also important that the bride appoint someone to record who gave what. This will help organize her sending out Thank You notes. It has become quite popular to have a THEME shower. However, unlike the wedding theme, a shower theme centers around the gifts. If for example you decide th have a  “Kitchen and Dining Theme”, you must notify all the invited guests and suggest that they  bring gifts related to Kitchen and Dining. If you choose a “Bed and Bath Theme”, the gifts should reflect the theme. Surprise all by suggesting gifts no one, not even the bride and groom think of such as a garbage bucket, a broom set, a plunger, a laundry basket etc…

The Groom Shower

21st century grooms want to plan the wedding with their brides and celebrate their upcoming wedding with a Groom Shower just for the guys. Thus, a new trend has been created and is becoming more and more popular, but not quite as popular as the Wedding Shower or by its other name the Couple Shower. The realization is that men need showers too. The most appreciated gifts are tools for the household they will be maintaining, car maintenance tools, garden supplies, sports equipment and of course electronics. One of the most fun parts of the shower is when the gifts are opened and the reaction written. The groom should appoint one of his attendants to record who gave what as the gifts are opened. This will help the groom organize his Thank You notes.

The Wedding Shower

Many 21st century brides and grooms transformed what was originally a bridal shower into a wedding shower or Couple Shower. This is a shower for both bride and groom where the celebrants are both ladies and gentlemen.Well, the name SHOWER says it all. This event has a purpose. Showering the bride and groom with gifts!Like many aspects of the wedding scene the traditional shower for the bride has become a shower for both bride and groom. Unlike the bridal shower that was hosted by the maid of honor and centered on the bride, the wedding shower is usually hosted by siblings of the couple and – or their wedding attendants a few months to a few weeks before the wedding. The majority of the current showers are the results of group efforts, especially theme showers.Years ago, the bridal shower was a surprise party. Today the bride and groom are consulted. In fact, the idea behind the shower is to have family and friends gather to shower the couple with gifts. With today’s escalating wedding costs, The the bride and groom highly appreciate, the most common are keepsake gifts they may need or can use at the wedding such as guest books and pens, ring bearer pillows, flower baskets, bridal purses, garters, flutes, cake serving sets, albums etc… The second most common are money gifts, followed by items for the new home, sports equipment and electronics.

One of the most fun parts of the shower is when the gifts are opened and the reaction written. A family member or one of the attendants should jot down the reaction to each gift as it is opened. Another person should be appointed to record who gave what. This will help the bride and groom with their Thank You notes.

The Rehearsal Dinner – What is The Wedding Rehearsal?

A wedding rehearsal is a get together of the families and wedding party a day or two before the wedding, to go over the entire ceremony with the bride, groom and officiant. The idea behind the rehearsal is to go over the finer details of the wedding day so the ceremony will go smoothly. This is the last chance to straighten out any minor issues. The rehearsal itself includes meeting at the ceremony site to go over every detail and the logistics of the ceremony. Usually a practice run is conducted, so that everyone knows exactly what to do and when. It is important that members of both families and everyone in the wedding party know in advance: who walks down the aisle with whom, at what pace and when, who is in front of them and who follows them. The family of the bride will be instructed as to who walks the bride, when, to what point and where to stand or be seated. Likewise, the family of the groom will know what their role is. The rehearsal is extremely important. When the bride and groom are sure that everyone including them, knows what is expected and is familiar with the order of the service they will be more relaxed and less nervous.

What is The Wedding Rehearsal Dinner?

Though it is called a dinner, the gathering after the rehearsal of the wedding activities does not have to be formal. It can be a meal at a restaurant – breakfast lunch or dinner, a cocktail and hors d’oeuvres in a home, a backyard barbeque, or any style of reception that provides an opportunity for all to have a good time at a relaxed celebration in a casual atmosphere. However, it is a celebration so, no matter how casual, it requires business attire or better. In other words, Jeans, a tee shirt and sneakers will not do. It is quite popular to offer toasts, while keeping drinking to a minimum so no one is impaired at the wedding. A rehearsal Dinner is also a perfect setting for the bride and groom, to thank those who were involved in planning the wedding and those who are an integral part of it. Most brides and grooms give gifts to their families and to the wedding party. The most popular gifts are either items they can use at the wedding such as; jewelry and comfy shoes for the ladies and cufflinks for the men or personalized items that will become keepsakes.

Who pays for and Hosts the Rehearsal Dinner?

Traditionally the groom’s parents assume the financial responsibility for and host the Rehearsal Dinner. However, currently anyone can host the event. In fact, it is not uncommon for both families to host it together, nor is it uncommon for the bride and groom to do so and pay for the Rehearsal Dinner. 

Who should we invite?

Typically the guest list may include:

  • Your children, if yours is a family wedding.
  • Immediate family
  • wedding-party members and any spouses and significant others
  • The parents of any child attendant
  • The officiant and his/her spouse
  • Guests who traveled from out of town to attend your wedding. This is an excellent opportunity to thank them for making the trip to be with you.

Note! If your Rehearsal Dinner guest list is growing while your budget shrinks, opt for a home based sandwich and salad buffet, or a cocktail and hors d’oeuvres reception or just a dessert.

About The Author

Nily Glaser, the CEO of A-wedding Day at: http://www.a-weddingday.com is a retired school principal, a published author and the recipient of numerous awards. She writes important articles, and her Personalized Wedding Planning Organizer is a big hit. Read her articles on this site; With her background of serving as a school principal and now as a weddings specialist, Nily Glaser has presented workshops for parents and for wedding professionals all over the USA. Her web site is a very popular Wedding Resource and Information Center, that specializes in family wedding with kids, and theme weddings and presents a very comprehensive shopping mall that represents top companies and offers discount wedding and other gifts as well as bridal accessories, including the exclusive line of wedding Accessories By Nily.


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About Wedding Specialists

A Wedding Planner, a Wedding Consultant, a Wedding Coordinator – Whatever the Title, Do We Need One?

By Nily Glaser

For the sake of simplicity, let us refer to the wedding planner, consultant, and coordinator as wedding specialists.

We are asked this question often, by brides and by grooms from various walks of life. Though some are less busy than those  who hold jobs or professions, go to school or both and are pressed for time, the question is the same.

Actually the tone of the question varies by the person inquiring. Brides get very emotional and excited about planning their dream weddings. Most want to actively plan it. Grooms often would like to take an active role but believe, or thinks that their bride expects that it is the women who should plan the wedding. Thus, though they would like to, Many grooms  grooms do not volunteer so as not to “take away” their bride’s excitement toward planning their very special day.

The question whether you need to hire a wedding specialist is rather complex. It cannot be answered with a yes or a no.
Many factors need to be considered and they will influence the decision.

Now, consider the following:

How many months do you have before your wedding day? Is this enough time to plan and execute your dream wedding?
How much time and energy do you have to devote to planning your wedding and can you rely on friends and family for help?

Planning a wedding can and should be stress-less and a lot of fun. But as you consider your wedding planning,
be prepared for the:
    realistic wedding budgets you need to set and stay within,
    various schedules you need to plan,
    endless details you need to take care of,
    logistics you need to coordinate,
    many vendors and service providers you need to interview, hire, work with and supervise when necessary,
    delegation of some responsibilities and being on top of the – what, by whom and by when to do list and following up.

Now that you considered all of the above, you need to determine what a wedding specialist is, and what he or she can do for you?

Well, a wedding specialist is professional who is familiar with the wedding circuit in your region, usually possesses a lot of experience, creative ideas, know-how, sense of organization, attention to details and strong contacts with vendors and service providers. Most experienced wedding specialists have over the years learned what to expect, what to ask and how to  negotiate with their peers. Take into consideration that not all wedding specialist take on only clients who want them to be totally in charge. the majority, however, accommodates the couple’s needs.

So, if you were to, to what degree would you like to engage the wedding specialist?
To consult with regarding what needs to be done, a realistic budget to execute it and how to go about doing so?
    To hire the vendors and service providers you can work with on your behalf?
    To hire the vendors and service providers for you, work with and supervise them?
    To do everything other than the attire, from the Save the date to the favors and everything in between and to
supervise during the wedding itself?
    To supervise the wedding day itself – only?
    You do not want to engage a wedding specialist.

How much can you budget for the service of a wedding specialist?
Take into consideration that some wedding specialists charge:
    A flat fee that depends on what you want them to do,
    A percentage of the cost of your wedding,
    A fee from you and a fee from the vendors and service providers they offer your wedding to,
    There are some other fee schedules but they are less common.

Are you planning a destination wedding?
Unless your wedding location offers their services as part of the wedding package, this is the only situation where you must budget and hire a local wedding specialist. Hire the most experienced wedding specialist where you plan to have your wedding, because it is impossible to plan a wedding from afar.
The only exception is if you have friends and – or family in the region who can plan on your behalf.  However, I do not recommend it.

I hope the information will help you make your lifetime event, an event for a lifetime.

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About The Author

Nily Glaser, the CEO of A-wedding Day at: http://www.a-weddingday.com is a retired school principal, a published author and the recipient of numerous awards. She writes important articles, and her Personalized Wedding Planning Organizer is a big hit. Read her articles on this site; With her background of serving as a school principal and now as a weddings specialist, Nily Glaser has presented workshops for parents and for wedding professionals all over the USA. Her web site is a very popular Wedding Resource and Information Center, that specializes in family wedding with kids, and theme weddings and presents a very comprehensive shopping mall that represents top companies and offers discount wedding and other gifts as well as bridal accessories, including the exclusive line of wedding Accessories By Nily.

About The Author

Nily Glaser, the CEO of A-wedding Day at: http://www.a-weddingday.com is a retired school principal, a published author and the recipient of numerous awards. She writes important articles, and her Personalized Wedding Planning Organizer is a big hit. Read her articles on this site; With her background of serving as a school principal and now as a weddings specialist, Nily Glaser has presented workshops for parents and for wedding professionals all over the USA. Her web site is a very popular Wedding Resource and Information Center, that specializes in family wedding with kids, and theme weddings and presents a very comprehensive shopping mall that represents top companies and offers discount wedding and other gifts as well as bridal accessories, including the exclusive line of wedding Accessories By Nily.


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