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With the number of mixed marriages taking place, many
couples are opting to have a civil ceremony instead of
a religious ceremony for their wedding. This allows them
to include special readings, vows, symbols or wedding
themes (whether religious or not) that they may not be
able to include in a religious ceremony or location.
A civil ceremony contains no religious elements (except for
what the couple may add) and can be performed in a judge's
chambers, registrar's/lawyer's office or a venue of your
choice, depending on the area in which you wish to get married
in. Different laws apply to different states and countries and
you can usually find out most of the information from the
local court house or City Hall in the city where you wish
to be married.
For a small fee, they should also be able to supply you
with a list of names, addresses and phone numbers of
various officiants who can perform a civil ceremony.
To find out more about U.S. marriage laws by state, visit:
http://countryweddings.com/planning/statelaws.htm
It's a good idea to set up appointments and meet with 3
or 4 different officiant's, as some won't be available on your
wedding date and some you may not like. It is important
that you feel comfortable with the officiant who is performing
the ceremony and that you feel that he/she is interested in
you as a couple.
Some important questions to ask the officiant are:
1. Are you available on this date and are you willing to travel to
the location? If you are planning on having a private ceremony
and a reception later for family and friends, ask if the officiant
can provide a room or location in which to conduct the ceremony.
2. How long have you been conducting civil ceremonies and
what is your fee?
3. Are you available for a rehearsal and when are you available?
4. What is the standard ceremony that you use and can we
add our own vows, readings, etc. to the ceremony? Do you
have any sample ceremony sheets that you could provide?
5. What is the procedure we need to follow in order to obtain
a marriage license?
The officiant should be able to advise you on the procedure
you will need to follow in order to get your marriage license.
Here are a few things that are fairly standard in most areas.
You will each need to have the following documents:
* a birth certificate and/or passport for identification (with a
picture)
* a copy of your Marriage Certificate and the Certificate of
Divorce if either of you were previously married
* any name change deeds if you had your name legally changed
* a utility bill or some other type of document that gives your
current address
* some areas require that you also provide your father and your
mother's (maiden) names
* if you are under 18, you will most likely need signed permission
from a parent or guardian in most places.
Some locals still require couples to have a blood test before issuing
a license. This is probably a good idea regardless of whether it is
required or not. Remember, you're not just marrying one person...
but every other person your mate may have slept with.
Also keep in mind to budget for the various fees, such as
the officiant's fee (for the ceremony), the registration fee and the
marriage license fee. These vary from location to location.
As with any marriage ceremony, you will need to have two
witnesses to sign the legal documents once the ceremony
is performed. If you are eloping, often times the officiant can
provide the two witnesses from his/her staff.
All in all, a civil ceremony is much more flexible in today's world.
You both may incorporate aspects of each of your religions if you
wish, write your own vows and have any type of wedding theme
you want, whereas a typical religious ceremony tends to restrict
much of this.Civil ceremonies also tend to be a favorite with
the budget conscious couple, as they are usually much cheaper
in the long run. Whatever type of ceremony you choose, the most
important thing to remember is do what makes you happy as a
couple. It's your wedding after all.
Rose Smith is the author of How to Create a Beautiful Medieval
Wedding and several other wedding ebooklets. Visit Wedding
Themes and More for great ideas on theme weddings, favor ideas,
budget tips, honeymoon destinations, decorations and more.
http://www.wedthemes.com
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